I was recently talking with my emotional coach about my Healthy Parenting Resources business. This conversation began with the expression of my frustrations around another business that I started, but have been feeling stagnant in. When talking about the work I do with children and families, he pointed out the passion and excitement he saw in me. I think he actually said that I "light up!" This was not the case for my other business, and he challenged my thinking about both. During the process of his helping me think about both businesses differently, he suggested that I capture on paper the benefits that families receive for themselves and for their children from the coaching that I provide. It never occurred to me to do this, but when he suggested it, I decided to give it a go! So here I am, capturing the benefits on virtual paper, hoping to clearly share with others what I see as the life-long benefits of learning and practicing Respectful Parenting.
The idea of failing isn't something that sits well with me. I'm a bit of a perfectionist and moving outside my comfort zone to embark on something new or challenging can make me feel things that I would rather not feel. But I'm learning that one of the best ways to grow and improve in anything, is to do something I've never done before.
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I frequently talk with parents I work with about the power of allowing and truly accepting a child's emotions. Something "magical" often happens when children's emotions are welcomed and validated. No matter how many times I see this process unfold between children and adults, I am never not inspired and in awe of it!
I recently had a "magical" experience with my 4-year-old niece, Lucy, that I felt inspired to share. She and her 9-year-old sister, Seara, asked me to be the judge for their fashion show contest. They each dressed up three Barbies in the most fashionable outfits they could find and I had to decide who won each round. I initially felt hesitant about the fact that I had to chose one niece to be the winner, because I didn't want the other one to feel bad. Then I remembered that I'm capable of handling any reactions and feelings they show AND that I should practice what I preach to parents and be willing to accept whatever emotions they might feel.